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After visit with m*m and more validation, I realize my memories are fairly clear. My sister seems to recall as i do, and we remember our childhood in similar ways. But I wish it all wasn’t true.  i wish I didn’t remember.  isn’t that what dissociation does for us so we don’t have to feel so much pain. of course many memories are without feeling at first then the feelings come later.  Different parts seem to remember different things and have different feeling about the same memory sara (of margaret) — For more information about this service, send e-mail to:

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After visit with m*m and more validation, I realize my memories are fairly clear. My sister seems to recall as i do, and we remember our childhood in similar ways. But I wish it all wasn’t true.  i wish I didn’t remember.  isn’t that what dissociation does for us so we don’t have to feel so much pain. of course many memories are without feeling at first then the feelings come later.  Different parts seem to remember different things and have different feeling about the same memory This was the hard part for us, took along time to accept one that the memories were true (didn’t go through any assistance in remebering just

all of the sudden started having flashbacks)We validated and validated and questioned and wanted to bl*me ourselves for what happened, this technique worked for awhile but didn’t last.  For us once we started excepting our memories our feelings, the pain the sadness the loss, we started healing. No easy way, but much better now. Hope this helped and did not hender, take care of yourselve and be patient and gentle with yourselves.

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